Dr. Niki Barr – As Seen on TV
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- "What one peaceful thought could I have in this minute regardless of what else is going on?"
A diagnosis of cancer can set off a chain of events and trigger emotions that will change every aspect of your life. You must make many important decisions about your medical care and your life, often under intense emotional stress. In this blog, and in my book Emotional Wellness: the Other Half of Treating Cancer, I focus on providing tools and strategies you can use immediately to help you manage the journey through cancer with confidence and calm. Here you can relax, think, learn, celebrate, get inspiration, feel soothed, ask questions, and find respite.
I want to hear from you! Please share your stories, experiences, and thoughts about the treatment of cancer and dealing with the emotions of cancer. Thank you for coming!
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Q And A With Niki
I heard you on the radio talking about fear. I’m terrified having just been diagnosed with breast cancer. I never expected to hear this, especially since I am crazy careful about what I eat and about exercise. It all seems so surreal. I see the surgeon next week. I really don’t know how to handle any of this and would appreciate your comments.
When you hear those words, “you have cancer”, nothing could be more shocking…even if you thought a cancer diagnosis was a possibility. Give yourself time to “freak out”, lean in to it. Allow yourself to feel what you feel…very normal to be scared.
Then, take some time to gather yourself around the diagnosis, a time out. Be in quiet, peaceful surroundings at home, in nature, or wherever else you choose. You might put on some soothing music, light a candle, bring a journal, and/or have your pet beside you. This is time for you to be with you without distraction of the TV, cell phone, or computer.
After your time out or several time outs, as you begin to consider the medical side of treatment, get as much information as possible. I suggest staying away from “horror” stories on the internet as these can cause tremendous fear. Better to gather information from your doctor. Many women get a second opinion, which makes sense before proceeding to treatment.