Tag Archives: Relationships

Q And A With Niki

Q My wife had lung cancer, and passed away after terrible suffering. I feel lost now and so guilty… Please what can I do, I don’t have any medical insurance. A I’m so sorry to hear about your wife’s passing … Continue reading

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Cancer Emotional WellBeing: Calming the Chaos

What if you heard what your own voice had to say…Listen…                                 We aren’t so much schooled in listening to our own voice.  Rather, early … Continue reading

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Cancer WellBeing Self Talk: What Words Are You Choosing?

  What you tell yourself matters.  If your thoughts are centered on “I can’t handle this” self-talk, or if you continually use the “I can’t handle this” phrase in talking with your family and friends, you are setting up a … Continue reading

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Cancer: Is Survivor’s Guilt Similar to Grief and Grieving?

L. Marie Shadwick wrote a moving guest post about survivor guilt and how it affected her.  I see many patients who experience survivor’s guilt, and have found it is not uncommon. To quote from L. Marie’s guest post,  “Why was I … Continue reading

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Survivor’s Guilt: Trying to Understand Cancer’s Mystery

I was walking down the hallway of the hospital and wearing a large grin. I had just received the results of my mammogram – still no evidence of disease (3+ years cancer free). My mood quickly changed when I walked … Continue reading

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Is This Thought Moving Me Forward, or Is It Moving Me Backward?

Catching myself going round and round with my thoughts, it became increasingly clear I was stuck in neutral.  Like a car engine that keeps on with that errrrr, errrr, errrr, errr noise.  Annoying, really. Don’t you just get tired of … Continue reading

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Did You Show Up? Wellbeing Attention

Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…Rachel Naomi Remen   What could be more powerful or significant for relationships then your undistracted presence or fully “showing up”? I listened to a conversation unfold: She:  … Continue reading

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Sometimes Silence Is The Best Answer. Dalai Lama

Sometimes Silence is the Answer.  Dalai Lama Questions: How do I get through this?    Treatment Caregiving in addition to working and managing household Recurrence and Metastasis Anger, fear, worry, shock Being here for my kids Watching her go through this … Continue reading

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Guest Post Cameron Von St. James Caregiving, Fighting Cancer With My Wife

This guest post features Cameron’s caregiving with his wife, Heather diagnosed with pleural mesothelioma, a cancer in the lung’s lining. Fighting Cancer with My Wife My wife has said many times that she simply cannot imagine what I went through … Continue reading

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One Perfect Gift To Give Anyone Diagnosed With Cancer Or Another Disease

What one thing can you do for anyone diagnosed with cancer or another disease? LISTEN! Sometimes this is the most challenging and hardest gift to give. Who has time to listen? Who isn’t caught up in a zillion “to do’s”, … Continue reading

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